... is a willingness on the side of the child to follow you and should not involve coercion…
A child’s life in the early years is very basic and very physical. Everything learned is uncomplicated, observable and demonstrable.
When a little child has a ‘nurturing climate’ for learning; are able to acquire new skills, have found comfort when needed and been rewarded by the obvious delight of the beloved adults, he will feel very pleased. Feeling pleased with oneself encourages one to also desire to please others. It is this desire that then leads to obedience.
The child is then obedient because he has come to know himself, has come to feel good with himself, is pleased with himself and therefore with the world around him.
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